How do we set boundaries for someone else? Can we set boundaries for someone else? We CAN NOT set a boundary for someone else. 1O0nly they can do that.
1. BOUNDARIES ARE ABOUT OUR PERSONAL POWER
Interoception is our own personal feelings. Interoception allows us to notice internal body signals- like a racing heart, growling stomach, tense muscles, full bladder.
2. BOUNDARIES ARE THE LINES WHERE WE START AND STOP
Boundaries tell us and our clients what we find ok and what is not. When we notice these signals within our body our brain uses them to filter our own emotions. When we feel uncomfortable our body lets us know.
3. BOUNDARIES HELP US KNOW WHAT WE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR AND WHAT WE ARE NOT
Pay attention to your body language: stand tall, take deep breaths, smile, and look people in the eye. Don’t stand on one leg or make unnatural gestures. we can only control ourselves and OUR emotions.
4. BOUNDARIES SHOW US WHAT WE WILL AND WILL NOT PUT UP WITH
By understanding what makes you feel uncomfortable and how to manage your own sense of calm (interoception). You are best assisting those around to feel safe with you. People’s behaviour escalates when they feel unsafe.
5. WE CAN’T CONTROL THE BEHAVIOUR AND CHOICES OF ANOTHER ADULT.
We aren’t in charge of the lives of other adults. Even if we think we’d do a better job… It’s their life. It’s not ours.
6. WHAT CAN WE DO?
We can offer to help, or come alongside when appropriate, but we can’t force change. It’s their life. They get to decide. But, guess what?
That’s where our power is. Not with someone else’s choices, but with our own. And that’s where beautiful changes can begin to happen. If not for them, then at least for us.